Happy Mothers Day!

It is not too late since in Mexico we celebrate Mothers day always on May 10th. So I hope all of you had an have a great day today! You deserve it.
I do not want to start saying that we should be celebrated every day, but I think that we should ;), because since I became a mother for the first time, every day is Mothers day! With ups and downs,with happiness and sorrow, with triumphs and failures. From soccer to tennis to water polo games, to the emergency room, to cook, to comfort, to hug (I love
hugs!) To the emergency room again, to the OR waiting room and everything else!
I would never change anything of those moments for anything else. To lift my little daughter crying after she fell and tell her not to worry and that everything will be ok, to keep on playing. To hug her twenty years later in silence with her pain in my heart, and to tell her not to worry and keep playing... play life.To see the most wonderful young adult ever passionate and caring, so caring that hurts. Remind him what a great person he is and encourage him to keep going.And my amazing teen ager that is just starting to realize who he is and what he is capable of. He who is always smiling, and who’s everyone’s favorite in the family, because he has the capability of making everyone smile like him.

Every single day of my life since 1986, being a mother is the best choice I could have ever made. Besides marring my husband, of course, my friend, and my life.
So what can I say to all of you mothers? Never regret this choice, enjoy even the hardest moments, one day they will look at you and say “I'm so grateful to have you as my mom, and everything you have taught me is not only in my mind, but also deep in my heart”.

To finish I would love to share this poem by Mother Teresa of Calcuta;

Enseñarás a volar...pero no volarán tu vuelo.
You will teach them to fly.... but they won't fly your flight.
Enseñarás a soñar...pero no soñarán tus sueños.
You will teach them to dream.... but they won't dream your dreams.
Enseñarás a vivir...pero no vivirán tu vida.
You will teach them to live... but they won't live your life.
Enseñarás a cantar...pero no cantarán tu canción.
You will teach them to sing... but they won't sing your song.
Enseñarás a pensar...pero no pensarán como tú.
You will teach them to think.... but they won't think like you.
Pero sabrás que cada vez que ellos vuelen, sueñen, vivan, canten y
piensen... ¡Estará en ellos la semilla del camino enseñado y aprendido! ESTARAS TU !!!
But you will now that every time they fly, Dream, live, and
think...You will be in them, the seed of a road thought and learned.
YOU WILL BE THERE!

Happy mothers day! Feliz dia de las madres!


Especially to those who without being a mother, they still are.

Is Your Child Plugged In?

I have been thinking about this a lot in the past years and this weekend I was not able to get it out of my mind. It is something that worries me more and more with time. I am well aware that technology and other communication mediums are part of our daily lives and something that we all adapt to, especially the newer generations. It worries me so much though, how it is affecting the little ones, our kids and future generations. I see little boys and girls getting dropped off for preschool and they are connected to their car televisions. I see it every day. When I have asked the parents why they do this, their response is that it is the only way to get them in the car and take sit on their chairs. Please! We are talking about 18 month old babies to 5 year old kids! YOU are the parent. This is precisely the most important phase in their lives since it is in this first five years that the brain will develop and they will obtain 75% of their vocabulary. So you can imagine how I feel when I see this. I just look at the kids and say “They have plugged you in again!” and just like this example I have seen many; from a kid playing video games at the table, a 7 month old baby connected to an Ipad and a teenager texting. This is how we loose the ability and capacity to communicate.

I urge you all to start taking advantage of these moments with your children in the car to talk to them, to sing with them or even to learn a new language with them, just as I did when I first arrived to the US with my two year old. We sang so much that my vocabulary grew tremendously. More than anything, we can use this time to build a deeper relationship with them. Even now that I have two adult children and a teenager, I take advantage of opportunities like this to all ride in the same car and sing songs like “Our House” by Cosby, Still, Nash and Young. It is one of our favorites and we all sing along. We have so much fun with it! 

I see how plugging them is the EASIEST thing to do in order to avoid a tantrum or a fight. What we are not realizing is that we are fermenting  and creating a lack of tolerance in a child that is still our responsibility and in our hands. Sometimes we are in a hurry and don’t want to struggle, but but what its worth,  lets change this and turn these into quality moments with them. I can assure you that you will feel a lot better and that your relationship with your kids will deepen. 

So I close this post leaving you to think: Is your child PLUGGED IN?

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